This is the first one I made. They're really easy, recycle, and are cheap to make. All you need:
- brads (for paper! Not the Pitt kind. You'd never get ANYTHING made with a Pitt around, would you?)
- old magazine
Here's the cheat soap. It's a cucumber avocado melt n' pour soap, with cucumber melon scent, sweet almond oil and apricot seeds added. Like I said, I'm really not making soap. I'm cheating. but I can get anywhere from 10 to 13 bars of soap for a $15 dollar investment, and it's mostly handmade. I'd love to actually make soap for real, but I hesitate to deal with anything caustic while being me. I'd lose an eye for sure.
This picture is one I just had floating around my computer. It cracks me up. It should crack up my friends, too, because those are the kinds of friends I have.
I've been slowly coming to some realizations about my friends and relationships lately. I don't have a huge list of friends, and never have. What I DO have is a small list of people I would take a bullet for, and that make me laugh and feel good about myself and the world. I don't have the time or energy for people who do not do these things, therefore, I do not have the long list of friends. I'm fine with that. To be honest, I'm really happy about the kinds of friends I have. I know the old adage is "If you love something, set it free" and in most cases that's true. But when it comes to friends and possessions, I work the other way. If I don't really love you, I'm going to let you go. There are also people I love dearly that I choose not to be around, because they will not deal with their problems. We've all got 'em, but I refuse to watch someone I love hurt themselves over and over again. I don't know what they should do, but the definition of crazy is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. I try very hard not to be judgmental; to have a live and let live policy on life, the universe and everything. Sometimes I can do that, sometimes I have to walk away. I don't want you telling me what to do, so logically you don't want me telling you how to live your life, either. And I am not the best at keeping my mouth shut when it should be, in those cases I need a little distance to gain perspective to shut the hell up already.
I have lots of friends that are going through some really weird and tough stuff right now. One friend is divorcing. Another is trying to get more time and attention from the person they love. Another is engaged in a metaphorical arm wrestling match about control in the relationship. I want to be there, to be supportive for all these people. Beck has listened to me, saved my ass and helped me out a million times, but rarely asks for help. She knows I'll be there, though, and that's what important to me. That my friends know they can always call. That I'll give them my shirt if they need it. That I will love them unconditionally. We don't need to agree politically, or about most things. We agree on the Big Stuff, like love and peace and agreeing to disagree.
I'm having some trouble, though. There are a few people I know and have counted as friends for a while now, but I feel like I've been misled. People who say one thing but do another, and more than the usual amount of that. We all behave this way to a certain extent; it's a social necessity. This goes beyond the norm, though. So I'm debating: do I love them for who they really are? Because I feel like I was deceived at the outset. The person I knew and cared about was never real, as much as the person inside might have wanted to be this other. I trusted, and was betrayed and a myriad of tiny ways, until I saw clearly for the first time just how different the person was from what they had presented themselves as. I just ended with a preposition, didn't I? Ah, hell. I guess my dilemma is this: how do you know who to keep? Some of the deceptions were major enough that the people involved are already gone, but what about the other stuff? Is there an amount by which you can measure? What tips the scale from live and let live to live and let live somewhere else? I don't know, so I'm going to be like Pooh and Think for a While. And go melt some more cheater soap, mix stuff in and put it into molds.
I hope your day is simple and pleasant and fun.